| Aug. 29th, 2008 @ 10:24 pm Dating problems (or lack thereof) |
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Hi all,
I'm sure someone has already talked about this, but I just joined this community and it would take forever to read back through all the posts. Anyway, I am 22 and just graduated college. I am legally blind but have enough vision to do most things, except drive and play sports. I am almost totally blind in the dark and need a little assistance in strange areas, but otherwise I am fairly mobile and often am mistaken for a fully sighted person. However, I have only had two boyfriends my entire life, neither relationship lasted long. I was tortured in high school and had awful self esteem on top of that. It was unbelievable. College was a little better and now I have good self esteem. I have awful hair but otherwise I'm not bad looking. I'm intelligent and I think I'm a nice person, or at least I try to be. Every now and then I notice a guy looking at me, but no one ever approaches me. I know that people have waved at me before and, not seeing them, I didn't respond so they probably thought I was a jerk or something. The people who know me well know better than that, but people who just see me occassionally don't. Now I'm back in my hometown trying to find a full time job and it's really lonely here. I've been doing online dating (like match.com) and in my intro I say that I am visually impaired. I firmly believe that that does not "define" me, but it is a part of me that I can't change and I don't see as a problem. The only reason I say it is because I'd rather people know beforehand that I can't drive because that's always an issue in dating situations. I've barely gotten any responses and the ones I have gotten are from people I definitely wouldn't date (ie. guys only interested in a one night stand.) I feel like if I didn't put in there about my eyesight, I'd get a few more responses. If people, online or otherwise, would just get to know me, they'd see that it's not a big deal and dating me or even being my friend only requires a slight bit of empathy and understanding, not a huge burden.
Is this ever going to change? I know there are plenty of happily married people or people in a relationship who have disabilities. Is there ever going to be anyone that sees me for me and isn't scared because of my eyesight? I just feel sometimes like I ought to join a convent or something. I mean good grief it's not as if I have two heads or something....
Anyway, any thoughts anyone has would certainly be appreciated:) |
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